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Plunging into fatherhood...times two


Since almost the day we got married three years ago, my wife, Kay, and I have been asked approximately 2,482,042,403 times, “So, when are you going to have a baby?”

I’ve never really enjoyed being asked that question, because to me it seems kind of personal. And it’s funny how quickly rumors began floating around our social circles that we were having trouble. That was news to us, as it’s hard to have trouble doing something you’re not trying to do.

It’s a real shock when you get married because, as a guy, from the time you are old enough to date, everyone is constantly telling you not to get a girl pregnant. Yet after you’ve been married for a month suddenly everyone wonders why you haven’t.

Truth be told, I wasn’t ready for kids, though Kay certainly was.

But as I turned 30 this year, and some of my friends and family members started having kids, I started to realize that maybe it was time to take that step myself. I mean, everyone seems to be really happy with their babies, so why not, right?

So after three years of trying to talk me into it, around Thanksgiving, we found out that we were going to be parents.

Despite the fact that I was sort of comfortable with the whole idea of kids, the realization that we are actually going to have a little mini-human in our midst was still pretty overwhelming. It’s taken the past few months just for my mind to wrap around the fact that everything is going to change, from here forward. Suddenly this huge weight of responsibility was resting squarely on my shoulders.

It was a pretty big step for me a couple of years ago when we got our dog. And even that has caused quite a few headaches along the way — trying to find someone to watch her when we go away, trying to keep her from chewing the coffee table, trying to get her to stop barking at the mail lady for the 387th time, despite the fact that she walks by our front window at the exact same time every single day, six days a week.

But a dog is a lot easier than a human. For example, you can lock a dog in a crate if they are bad. You can’t do that with children, at least not legally.

So over the past few months and through several doctor’s appointments with Kay, the realization has settled in that we’re going to be parents, and that we’re going to have a lot bigger responsibility.

The thing that has helped coax me along is the fact that it’s just one baby, and there are two of us. Between Kay and me, I’m sure we can handle it. The baby would be outnumbered, after all.

That’s what made me fully comfortable with the entire situation. That is, until our doctors appointment last Wednesday, when suddenly there were two heartbeats, and two little baby blobs on the ultrasound screen.

And suddenly I felt like I was in a Chase credit card commercial (you’ve all seen it, right?) when the doctor says the word T.W.I.N.S. in super slow motion. All of a sudden we don’t need one car seat; we need two car seats. Suddenly that little bit of sleep that I saw myself potentially getting in nine months seemed so much less plausible. That thought of maybe not having to change a lot of diapers was replaced with the realization that we’re both going to be changing diapers until we’re blue in the face.

Holy cow, things have definitely changed.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m extremely excited that we’re going to be parents, and I’m ecstatic that we’re having twins.

I just don’t have time to think about it that much right now. I’m too busy stocking up on diapers.



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Congratulations! If you're lucky, maybe at least one of them will sleep all night. Yes Eric, your life as you have had it for how long, no longer exists.

Friday, January 13, 2012 | Report this

Congratulations and what a wonderful wonderful article. I really enjoyed smiling through this. Glad to see a father happy about his babies!

Friday, January 13, 2012 | Report this


Friday, January 13, 2012 | Report this

Congrats Eric, and Kay. Being a twin myself, I understand your situation. I passed the gene to my daughter and she had twins. It's a whole new world for the both of you now. You'll do just fine. There's no book that has all the answers though.

Saturday, January 14, 2012 | Report this

Eric, congrats on such a blessed event as bringing up and raising children into this world. Bless you and your wife for doing such an outstanding job as parents.

But before I get all weepy eyed and teary, I though this column was all about opinions. It is after all titled: Opinions. Yet Eric's column is not really an opinion piece.

Other previous examples: We have Jessie with her "Bells & whistles". No real opinion here either.

Finally we have Jeff with his "What's up with that" musings. Still not opinion.

Don't get me wrong because all three have well written pieces of literature. But lets not call it "Opinion". These pieces are really a slice in the lives of Eric, Jessie and Jeff.

So I think Oscoda County Herald should create a new section for artful (I didn't say awful) writing and call it; "Northern Whispers" or "Northern Thoughts".

And like this column is labeled, this after all, just my "opinion".

Sunday, January 15, 2012 | Report this

congrats! (:

Monday, January 16, 2012 | Report this


Hint: Don't take it personally when they first arrive - you will not be number one anymore in Mama's eyes.

Monday, January 16, 2012 | Report this

Well put BelleRiverRunner. Many of these "opinion" articles, while they might garner an A in junior college English Comp II class, are really not anything I expect from the editors. And at the same time an interesting piece about transperancy in OCATS no one puts a name to.

Thursday, January 19, 2012 | Report this

Thank you, everyone, for your comments.

In regard to the comments rom BelleRiverRunner and RantsandRaves, while this is labeled as the opinion page, the page also serves as a place for our reporters' columns. A column is a way for the writers to express themselves and to write about whatever they would like. Sometimes they are light pieces about family, sometimes they are hard opinions on politics or other issues. Most newspapers around the country, and the world, run columns. We feel, being a community newspaper, that this gives our readers a chance to get to know the people covering events and news in their area.

In regard to the OCATS editorial, editorials are written by the staff, generally as a collaborative effort, which is why there is no name listed with them. Again, this is a common piece of nearly every newspaper.

If you have any other comments or concerns, feel free to e-mail me at

Thank you

Eric Young

Managing Editor

Friday, January 20, 2012 | Report this


Friday, January 20, 2012 | Report this

Eric, thanks for enlighten us about what opinions are all about. I must have missed that definition in my class on Journalism 101.

Just to let you know, on the opening page of "Opinion" I count 2 actual opinion pieces (out of 9 total). The rest are about family, babies, sports and holidays. So light pieces of random thoughts are "sometimes" by your account, Which to me is "most of the time" by my account. And again this is just my opinion.

But thanks for interjecting your opinion. It's good to know that the staff of Oscoda Herald do care about the written word and how the staff values its readers opinions, whether pro or con.

Now will someone on your staff do an investigative report on flying stones on M-72. Not "raining stones" but "flying stones".

Friday, January 20, 2012 | Report this

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