Don’t let struggles define you



People face different struggles every day.

For some, just waking up every morning is a battle.

We face obstacles every day.

A wise person once told me, “Depending on how you look at life, yes, it is one struggle after another, but the catch is, you can’t let the struggle define you. The way you defeat the struggle is what you want to be defined by.”

As I thought about it, I realized that there could not be a truer quote.

Ask yourself this. On Friday mornings when you hear your alarm going off, do you hit the snooze and keep on sleeping, or do you get up and go to work?

Sure, it’s a struggle after a week of work to get up, and you may feel like calling it quits, but you get up and you go to work.

That right there is defeating a struggle.

When you’re working out and going for a run, do you walk that last half-mile, or do you run it out and finish strong?

You can tell a lot about a person by how they face their struggles. These last few months, I have learned a lot about who I am.

Lately, it seems like everything has been rushing at me like Ndamukong Suh against Texas in the Big 12 Championship game.

There have been a lot of times where I thought about just giving up and not wanting to push on, but I found a way to keep motivated.

In those times of panic and frustration, I have learned that it’s harder to do things on your own.

Maybe it’s just me, but I need help to reassure myself that things will be fine, “I can do this.”

Whether it is a prayer to God, or a phone call to a family member or a friend, I find my reassurance.

Think, for a moment, about the great people in history who found a way to defeat their struggles. For example, do you think Martin Luther King Jr. hit the snooze on his alarm clock on Friday because he had a long week? I don’t think he did. Or do you think that Michael Jordan skipped a practice during the great years the Chicago Bulls had because they lost the night before, probably not.

These two men, and hundreds of other men and women like them are viewed as great leaders and winners.

When I think about how I want to be perceived by others, I want them to see me as a person who is responsible, truthful and a hard worker. Someone who is a winner.

That is something I would never be able to achieve as a person who did not defeat struggles.

So the next time you’re at work and you feel overwhelmed by the obstacles in your way, or if you just feel like you don’t want to keep going, remember that everyone has struggles, you just need to find a way defeat yours.


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What a terrific article! Opening the paper online or in my chair to see a positive notation by a writer is seldom seen. Being positive and believing in one through faith and gaining encouragement from family and friends are the key elements to living life to the fullest. Reaching goals and realizing dreams is an achievement anyone can accomplish.

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Thank you for the kind words. I am glad you enjoyed the column.

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